Aug 18, 2010
How come My oWn Happiness is not in my own Hand ?
What’s happiness. Why am I too much depended on it?
Everyone are trying too seek happiness for their own. Some get it by hurting others, some by ‘selling’ some act so they can get more attention from other people.
My teacher always said that we’re social ‘creature’, meant that we can’t live by our own. We always need other people assistance in order to live ‘properly’.
That’s true. But I am always questioned myself, even if we meant to be social creature like what my teacher said, does it mean that we’re also need to let our happiness determined by other people.
Can’t we just possess our own happiness without too much depends on others? It seems impossible, isn’t it?
But it made me thinked about one thought. We’re too much depended on others because we’re expecting too much from others. By other words, we can say that we’re a lot more receiving than giving. We tend to give only for an expectation to get payback for our merit. That’s exactly why I often heard people said : “There’s no free lunch in this world”.. ?!
Of course there’s some exception in here or there, but that’s how we generally speak about what ordinary people thought about happiness.
Simply said, you can think about it this way : It’s imposibble for a person to treat you with kindly manner if you’re always rude to them.
However, living in this world you can’t expect too much from others. Sometimes your friend might expect you to care for them, sometimes they scolded you for being too much meddling into their business. You can’t have one way to treat everyone the same so they won’t disappointed at you.
And that’s how we feel depressed all the time. At one side, we must accomodate their expectation for us, and at the other side we’re also expecting too much from them.
It’s tiring, isn’t it?
So, why don’t we try to focus more on ourself. How we should feel contented with what we have right now, instead of beefing about everything else which is out of reach.
Woohh… I didn’t mean that we must seperate ourself form social intercourse, but what I meant is we should try to develop happiness inside ourself.
I think it’s enough.. 
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