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Sometimes, you think that life is too much boring. You keep on chasing for something you don’t really know what it is.
The psychology is it doesn’t matter what is that as long as my mind keep moving.

Our mind is simply a wild beast that couldn’t stop budging. It can’t be helped because human is simply dynamic creature.
But the inability to control ourself would just lead us into self destruction.

This morning I read a blog post by Karl. He said something so profound. He said that people tend to thank that they’re not all right. Something is wrong, something needs to be fixed.

Well, maybe the only wrong thing is how they think. They can be fixed because they’re not broken.

We are too much concerned about ourself. We didn’t accept ourself as who we are. That’s the problem !

This thought come because we’re always comparing ourself to the others. We want to be someone other than ourself.

It’s not a cue that we must live passively, but it’s about taking balance in our life.

Of course everyone has the right to change, but you can do it the way you feel the most comfort of it.

Accept changes and be adept in dealing with changes. That’s the key. No one can teach you how to do it. You must find your own way. And that’s what I’m gonna do right now.

Today is such a boring day. Off mood, don’t know what to do. Well, actually there’s a lot thing needs to be finished but I don’t have any willingness to do it.

What I do right now is just sitting on the kitchen, write some useless words and enjoy my coffee.

Life has become so quiet right?
No wonder some people tend to create trouble out there.

Maybe they’re just same like me. Bored to death??

They dressed themselves for comfort in the eyes of others, they wear expensive jewelry to dazzle the eyes of others, wearing sexy clothes to seduce another person and at the same time to make their competitors envy to them.
In general, people are very hungry for recognition from others. They say that it can not be helped since they are social creatures.
Most people hunt for treasure and wealth, they also hunt for pleasure, hunt down the honor, and forget the essence of their true self.

Some people who had become wealthy lose their identity, blinded by lust and desire from inside, made mistakes without realizing that it was a mistake.

Despite we all knew that all the things in this world are not permanent, but human insisted on importance of wealth, and the material above all else. Although they are sometimes destroyed by their own wealth, they do not feel overloaded. Although they are engulfed by the endless lust, they did not complain.
The complain only come when they realize that after they died there was nothing they could carry. They complain when they are dying, even almost unlimited amount of money can not save them. And they feel the most regret for their mistake when they young – it’s all recalled at the time when they’re dying. Destruction and regret that came at the last moment is one of the greatest affliction they can feel.

In the social intercourse, not a few of them who sought to impose their opinion to others, no matter if their opinions are right or wrong. They want everyone else living with their way, when they live in a world that is not entirely theirs.

They also often to make decisions in a hurry. Assessing the situation with their own perspective, insisting on that, and not even appreciating other people’s opinions.

There are certain people who are not seeking truth but look for justification for what they’ve said and done. That is the hallmark of the present people.

My advice is, Whatever happens, to live in the world is always being confused by the world itself. The best way is to live in a chaos without having consumed by it.
From the chaos sometimes came the inspiration for balance and harmony within oneself.
To live in peace, to be free from chaos, the only friend who must be tamed is oneself.

Today is the birthday of Tony, but none of his friends remember it. So, he try to give a hint for them.

Tony : Hi,… how are you doing?
Jessica : I’m doing fine. No thanks for asking. (*wow.. that’s rude)
Tony : Errr… do you know what day is today?
Jessica : Yeah.. Monday, August 23, 2001 . Look at the calendar you moron !!
Tony : I i i see… (*want to cry but feel too ashamed)

That’s Tony. No one likes him. His life is so much miserable.

Now, let’s look at another case.

Jessica is the most popular girl in the school. Everyone knows her and everyone admire her a lot. December 20 is her birthday, and everyone greet her at that day.

But, can you imagine how much person greet her at that day?

John : Jessica, happy birthday. Wish All the best for you.
Jessica : Oh, thanks.
Steven : Jessica, happy birthday. Wish you all the besttt !
Jessica : Thanks.

And it keeps going on. People keeps coming and coming to greet her..

After 100 greetings

Jessica : Ugh… it’s enough. Thanks..

1000 greetings.

Jessica : Oh, guys… can’t you stop already??

2000 greetings.

Jessica : hoexx… (*puke)

and at last at 2500 greeting, she fainted because of the noise. LoL

That’s two extreme example of two different people with different condition. None of them ultimately happy with what happened to them.

That’s why in life we always need to seek balance. Without it, you won’t feel good. You need to know your own limit, and you must know when to stop.

It’s only that simple afterall.

Well, it’s actually understandable that a person sometimes think that they’re not wrong on what they’re believing. And if someone manage to pull out the truth, it would be assummed as offensive.

Recently I got a chit and chat with a girl. I pointed out some of her weakness, and her response is … predictable. She said she isn’t angry with me and she also said that I have the right to think that way and the hell she care about it.
Wooh… that’s bold statement and although she didn’t admit it I can say that she is fully angered with my way telling her about what I think about her.

Some people respect honesty, but some can’t just accept it with sincerity. Even though they said that they’re not angry, from the way they give the answer everyone can tell that they’re angry about it. Truth is good, but not everyone have a big enough heart to contain it. Well said

So, I think in the future I must change my strategy. Instead of telling the “sour truth” using themselves as examples, I’ll rather use myself as example, let the “sweet truth” become theirs.

If they’re not mature enough to see their own weakness, then it must be me who has to be mature enough to show them how I fix myself to become a better person.

What’s happiness. Why am I too much depended on it?

Everyone are trying too seek happiness for their own. Some get it by hurting others, some by ‘selling’ some act so they can get more attention from other people.

My teacher always said that we’re social ‘creature’, meant that we can’t live by our own. We always need other people assistance in order to live ‘properly’.

That’s true. But I am always questioned myself, even if we meant to be social creature like what my teacher said, does it mean that we’re also need to let our happiness determined by other people.
Can’t we just possess our own happiness without too much depends on others? It seems impossible, isn’t it?

But it made me thinked about one thought. We’re too much depended on others because we’re expecting too much from others. By other words, we can say that we’re a lot more receiving than giving. We tend to give only for an expectation to get payback for our merit. That’s exactly why I often heard people said : “There’s no free lunch in this world”.. ?!

Of course there’s some exception in here or there, but that’s how we generally speak about what ordinary people thought about happiness.

Simply said, you can think about it this way : It’s imposibble for a person to treat you with kindly manner if you’re always rude to them.

However, living in this world you can’t expect too much from others. Sometimes your friend might expect you to care for them, sometimes they scolded you for being too much meddling into their business. You can’t have one way to treat everyone the same so they won’t disappointed at you.

And that’s how we feel depressed all the time. At one side, we must accomodate their expectation for us, and at the other side we’re also expecting too much from them.

It’s tiring, isn’t it?
So, why don’t we try to focus more on ourself. How we should feel contented with what we have right now, instead of beefing about everything else which is out of reach.

Woohh… I didn’t mean that we must seperate ourself form social intercourse, but what I meant is we should try to develop happiness inside ourself.

I think it’s enough..

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My friends always said that my english is pretty good. But I didn’t quite agree with that.
In my personal opinion, english is not flexible, and of course you can blame it to my poor english vocabulary.

It’s much easier to comprehend english while listening than speaking. Speaking in english is a hell of disaster for me, since I often can’t find proper words to convey something I want to say.

My friend always tell me to learn by practice, but it’s really boring to practice english by yourself. It’s more interesting if you have a friend to practice english by conversation… but again.. I don’t have much of that sort of friends. sigh…

Where can I find someone with adequate english skill to practice with?
Any suggestion?

Recently, I read a lot of japanese manga. In here, Indonesia we often called it ‘komik’ (comic).

From what I see, the general story is about the hunger of power, and the journey to attain more power so they can protect their friend, family and everyone they loved.

It seems natural that way, but I always wonder – in reality not every wish of us will be fulfilled. Although we may strive hard to fulfill our mission, there’s no guarantee that we’ll always get what we want.

Even though I’m agree that we can’t give up on what we’re striving hard for. So, I guess this is good for motivating us.

Human tend to compete each other.
They’re competing at school, their work place, even in a match in virtually Playstation game.
When someone win, then the other must lose. The winner got all the pride, and the loser tend to hate themselves and also the one who beat them up.
If I say, both side are loser. The winner can’t win against arrogance inside themselves and the loser also can’t withstand with negative emotion that arise because of the defeat. That’s absolutely very absurd, though.

The true winner is the one who can control himself from being swallowed by arrogance. People who’re unable to win against themselves will never get the true meaning of victory.

Today, surprisingly the weather is a lil bit cloudy.

Heh… to think about it, I always like this kind of weather, but one of my friend don’t like it. He said cloudy weather is like giving an impression that someone is sick.

Hm.. I think it’s just a matter of point of view.

To be honest, I hate sunny hot weather. But I always wonder why people in european country mostly like to take on vacation to tropical island? It’s hot in here you know !!!

Ha… maybe they are just bored with cold weather at their own country. It can be helped, of course.

In my country there’s a popular idiom : “neighbour’s grass is always greener than your own grass”. It means that we often feel that what we have is not as good as what the neighbour has. To sum it up, it also means that human will never satisfied with what they have, instead they’re always jealous with what other people had. What a pity, right?

We seemed to chase on a lot of things endlessly to the point that we forget to appreciate what we already had.

Greed is one of human problem. It consume your precious time without you knowing about it. It’s progressed to a degree that we actually don’t know what we want. We become confused, unsettled, lost in the middle of nowhere.

So, what would you gonna do if you come into this circumstances?

Honestly said, it once happened to me, and sometimes if I get lucky, I feel tired and easily forget anything. That’s the only time when I feel really relaxed. But most of time, I can’t let go of all my daily works, all my worries, and every stuffs in my head. It’s like your brain tied up to a strong iron chain that made you hard to let go all your problems.

I always said to myself that in order to free myself I need to rely on myself. Others can just give some help, but they will never be able to take the problems out of your head and finish it off at once. But sure, words is always easier to said than to be accomplished.

Argh… I think I gonna need good rest and meditate to calm my mind.