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All you need is to be happy, and you can’t get that by bowing down to someone nor by giving flowers to someone you like.
Because the happiness we talk about is not that kind of (happiness)..
Worldly happiness, that’s how I called it.. even though the feeling seems so real, it will eventually wilt, because time will take it all and give something new only for it to be taken again.
This is what we called ‘change‘.

‘Change’ is inevitable,
that’s why…

-The real happiness is not the exact opposite of suffering.-

To see the real one, you can’t wear any kind of glasses that will manipulate your sight.

Some people surrounded by problems thus looking for a way out, but they seems unable to find a way out.
Why?
Because their mind has already set boundaries that should not be crossed under any circumstances.
They are trapped in their self-made prison.
They live behind the bar and doesn’t even realize that the bar isn’t really exist.
…
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You must set your vision further in order to understand how things works.
Fail to do so, you will just live in ordinary life, vulnerable to suffering and sorrow of the world.

Wierd topic to talk about, eh.?
Before you make any objection please read this article until the end and give me some of your opinion.
The title seems so pathetic, right?
But the cover isn’t always represent what’s inside. You can’t take impression on what someone wear to decide he/she is a good or bad person (although actually you tend to do so. LoL)
You also can’t decide whether the food is delicious only by looking at its appereance. And you can’t judge me as pathetic only because I wrote a title that ‘seems’ pathetic.
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How can you let go of your past?

If it hurts, then just let it go, don’t ever think about it anymore.
Well, it’s much more easy to said than to be done.

How can you let go? The question is : you can’t or you aren’t willing to?
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What’s happiness. Why am I too much depended on it?

Everyone are trying too seek happiness for their own. Some get it by hurting others, some by ‘selling’ some act so they can get more attention from other people.

My teacher always said that we’re social ‘creature’, meant that we can’t live by our own. We always need other people assistance in order to live ‘properly’.

That’s true. But I am always questioned myself, even if we meant to be social creature like what my teacher said, does it mean that we’re also need to let our happiness determined by other people.
Can’t we just possess our own happiness without too much depends on others? It seems impossible, isn’t it?

But it made me thinked about one thought. We’re too much depended on others because we’re expecting too much from others. By other words, we can say that we’re a lot more receiving than giving. We tend to give only for an expectation to get payback for our merit. That’s exactly why I often heard people said : “There’s no free lunch in this world”.. ?!

Of course there’s some exception in here or there, but that’s how we generally speak about what ordinary people thought about happiness.

Simply said, you can think about it this way : It’s imposibble for a person to treat you with kindly manner if you’re always rude to them.

However, living in this world you can’t expect too much from others. Sometimes your friend might expect you to care for them, sometimes they scolded you for being too much meddling into their business. You can’t have one way to treat everyone the same so they won’t disappointed at you.

And that’s how we feel depressed all the time. At one side, we must accomodate their expectation for us, and at the other side we’re also expecting too much from them.

It’s tiring, isn’t it?
So, why don’t we try to focus more on ourself. How we should feel contented with what we have right now, instead of beefing about everything else which is out of reach.

Woohh… I didn’t mean that we must seperate ourself form social intercourse, but what I meant is we should try to develop happiness inside ourself.

I think it’s enough..

It’s near end of year right now.
Usually, every end of year we will try to review what we have achieved in this year. Did we make any progress this year, or just suffering a set back or no progress at all?

For me this year somehow better than previous one. But strangely, I feel the same. Nothing improve too much this year. I’m still lonely, searching for something that I don’t really want… etc etc… I realize that something which is not easy to attain is satisfaction.

As human, it’s natural that we want more and more. Every time we get something, we’re tend to search more and more. It’s not uncommon when we do love more than one thing. We’re not only seeking for love, we’re also seeking for money, fame, adventure, etc. When we try to stop, we often feel empty. Our mind is keep yelling “Hoi… do something… It’s boring in here !!!”.

People often tell me if I have a lot of money, I will happy. If I have a goddess like beautiful wife, it will be a bliss.
Is that true?

I have seen my neighbor committing suicide. He has beautiful wife, a lot of money and good fortune. But what happened was the good fortune come to turn into bad fortune.The lucky star turned into bad luck star which is become the reason that force him to commit suicide.

So… what’s happiness exactly?

If you have a lot of money, you will be haunted by fear. If you have someone that you love the most, you’ll keep missing that person when they are not around. That’s why I’m starting to think that worldly happiness is just another mask of suffering.

So whether I make any progress or no at all it’s not important. The more important thing is whether I’m fully satisfied with my life. Am I making too much complaint or not?
I remember a quote from a story about wishing game… The only happiness that I wished for is when I don’t need any wish to be happy.